lackadaisiac

First of all, could we have a source on those numbers, please? It’s okay. I’ll wait.

I allowed this person onto my Facebook initially because she’s employed under a local animal rescue project that I’ve supported in the past. How is it that someone who volunteers so much time and energy towards such noble charity can harbor such an appalling lack of compassion for human beings?

Instead of further denigrating and disrespecting some of the most abjectly downtrodden members of our grossly imbalanced society, perhaps you could recall the blessings of your middle-class upbringing and lily-white complexion and squeeze out one single drop of sympathy for someone who might have been you, in a different life.

Christmas Eve

nakedniko:

kalmia:

I was blessed enough recently to witness on Facebook the occurrence of something that truly chafes me. A friend, in a status update pertaining to some TV show or another, posted some offhand remark about most young guys being “irresponsible jerk-offs” (as exhibited on the show). And I swear her…

well… two things. For one, it’s easy to feel defensive when someone or something you might identify with has come under fire. What if I said that some women who are dog owners and in their 20s are _____________. Nothing explicit about ALL women or ALL dog owners or ALL folks in their 20s is being said. I certainly wasn’t talking about YOU…but you might be inclined to respond to or be generally invested in that discussion.

If you said that, it honestly wouldn’t faze me in the least! I can be blasé in asserting that because it happens plenty, as an Apple product user/chihuahua owner/lover of cheesy pop music/art student/vegan/liberal/etc. etc. I think there’s some danger in aligning one’s self so firmly with a group that you feel a deep personal investment with any perceived slight against any of its ranks. One’s individual diversity is important. So is perspective. Yeah, some of Group X are Y! Haha!

Secondly, yeah, it is annoying. But I’ve come to find that there are often people out there who just think everything is about them. So they need to comment on EVERYTHING in respect to THEM, even when it has nothing to do with them. Haha, I’ve known SOO many people like that. But I think once you realize that that’s how they are, it’s much less aggravating. 

Oh, that is totally the case with a lot of people. I certainly have the capacity to understand that (and really, I am very patient, even though my rants might suggest otherwise). But really, that’s what I’m getting at—it’s such a self-centered practice. For a lot of people, I think it boils down to issues of insecurity, and that’s sad. I wish that more people could achieve the internal distance to address such feelings instead of succumbing to “quick fix” behaviors that feed into vicious cycles.

But really, some dudes just need to chill. We can agree on that, at least, can’t we?

Pet peeve

I was blessed enough recently to witness on Facebook the occurrence of something that truly chafes me. A friend, in a status update pertaining to some TV show or another, posted some offhand remark about most young guys being “irresponsible jerk-offs” (as exhibited on the show). And I swear her finger must have barely brushed the Enter key before there came a reply to the effect of “hey, we’re not all like that!”

Oh, oh, ohhhh. Youuuu.

No, you’re not. You all being like that or not also has no bearing on WHAT SHE ACTUALLY SAID. Way to invent your own slight.

Where does this brand of idiotic persecution complex come from? The overwhelming majority of people who engage in this type of knee-jerk response (because this is in no way an isolated incident) enjoy the extreme societal advantage of being white heterosexual cisgendered adult men. Having a student loan payment or a cheap apartment in an iffy neighborhood or really strict parents doesn’t make you OPPRESSED. Race is another matter entirely, but even having that, why do so many feel inclined to try and make an issue of their most blatant privilege?

I am telling you this because I care, dear gentlemen of the internet: if you have ever done this, please stop. It is wasted dialogue at best and deeply obnoxious at worst. And while you’re sitting in silence there, maybe evaluate why the hell your Y chromosome, of all things, makes you feel like a marginalized member of society.

Yyyyeah… that’s pretty far. I don’t think it’s happening.

just another productive night on Facebook

jfc Facebook

Naturally! I always love the Korea.

Boy, I wish someone had warned me that December was going to be Get In Touch With Your Estranged Ex Month. The Ghosts of Christmas Past are on Facebook in the 21st century.